When it comes to sexuality, I believe both men and women are perfectly capable of self-control or at least attempt at doing it. Actually most of the men in my family don’t struggle with lust that much, whereas some of the women (including myself at various points) do. But if God’s grace is available to anybody, so is the willingness to rely on him whenever somebody is tempted to do something. Sometimes he can convict you to stop doing this, I have experienced this many times over.
But when it comes to the world making people do things they shouldn’t be doing, a need for self-control (well Godly self-control) becomes imperative. The expectation that men should enjoy sex more has resulted in many problems, including more divorces, ruined families, STDs, disregard for women’s feelings and the like. No wonder why the Bible has said many times about abstaining from lust, though I think women are just as prone to this too. A sermon on Citi FM said about how God hates sin, in addition to others that I remember that are about God giving grace and God humbling people.
(That and how Satan is very clever and another about God interceding in people’s lives.)
So lust is no different either, if there’s something that makes you lust cut it off. It’s this simple. Same with not giving into the world and flesh, if because following it makes your life worse. One example of a man who lacked self-control is Dolph Lundgren, he’s an action star who got into multiple affairs that his wife developed a habit of spending on something just to numb the pain she went through. Not to mention giving into sin makes you less free, you get trapped and you struggle with it. I know this myself and it’s tough at times.
No wonder why they divorced, Dolph Lundgren had to face the music. Another example is his contemporary Jean Claude Van Damme who married women after women and developed a drug addiction, giving into the world doesn’t do people any favours secular or Christian. Any man is capable of self-control, to the point where lust will no longer have a stronghold on them. It’s not easy to stop yourself from sinning, but by relying on God and confessing what you’ve done you can learn to manage it the next time around.
If a man cheats on his wife, he’s clearly not treating her right. The Bible has a verse about men treating their wives well, so even they may lead or guide them they still have to treat them kindly. It’s clear that Lundgren mistreated his wife by cheating on her many times, that eventually she got tired of it and divorced him. Likewise David Bowie got into so many affairs that Angie got tired of him too. You reap what you sow, what goes around comes around and what goes up must come down. If God hates sin, any sin, this is why.
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