There’s this post on Tumblr about the way redheads are portrayed in the media saying that quite provocatively, many redhead characters are really blonds and brunettes with red hair in that many of them don’t undergo sunburns, turn red whenever they feel something or get bullied for their red hair. (Rugrats’s Chucky Finnster might be one of the few redheads who actually get bullied for having red hair, well as far as fiction goes.) More often than not, red hair is a statement rather than something characters live with and go through.
I could say many of the same things about blond characters where it’s like they’re hardly portrayed as irritated with dumb blonde stereotypes (something blonde women have to go through), or for another matter those with albinism where they don’t undergo sunburns and problems with eyesight. It’s in other words an inauthentic portrayal of who they are and what they go through; only a minority would tell that there’s something off about the way they’re portrayed that marks their inauthenticity.
They look the way they do to communicate ideas about them, rather than about who they really are. It’s not enough to subvert stereotypes about them, but to also make them more like real people with that trait to better represent them. This also extends to the way ethnic minorities are portrayed: the way their cultures and individuals are portrayed risk being untrue, even stereotypical, appropriative and racist. It would be like always stereotyping black people as indulging in crime, that’s untrue for many black people.
Another thing that would be untrue for many black people is portraying them with big genitalia, which’s something not all black men have as evidenced by a handful of studies. It’s a stereotype that risks fetishising them since it’s something they get valued for, but it’s only something only a handful of black men have and others might not be that well-endowed. There are gay black men who have issues with this stereotype, you really have to listen to them to know that stereotype’s untrue.
So it’s important to listen to these people, knowing it might be untrue for many of them. One man’s innocent trope is another man’s offensive stereotype. It’s not just a matter of subverting tropes, but also knowing why it hurts some people and why it’s important to listen to those hurt by those cliches. If it goes unchecked, people will always be ticked off by those. When it comes to certain cliches, they hurt people whether if it’s a joke or a stereotypical portrayal. So is cultural appropriation and why we must listen to them.