Only a sex object

There are recent headlines about Leonardo DiCaprio breaking up with his current girlfriend once she hit 25, somebody told a newspaper the real reason why Leonardo DiCaprio breaks up with women when they hit 25 is that he doesn’t want a family to attend to. If these women demand to get married, he breaks up with them. It’s possible to marry somebody below your age and be in a lifelong relationship with them, but that involves seeing them as a person and not as a disposable sex object.

While one doesn’t have to be promiscuous to objectify somebody, objectification still plays a part in one’s disposability. They’re disposable once they’ve reached their purpose and get swapped with somebody else, one could do this with those of other ethnicities but they’d also be othered and expected to fulfill a racial stereotype. A stereotype they themselves may not and will not always fulfill, which’s why you should pay attention gay black men when they get angry about the well-endowed stereotype.

There are probably women who’re hurt by DiCaprio’s habit of dumping them once they got older, since they knew they were treated as interchangeable and disposable objects based on a certain quality they have. Leonardo DiCaprio evidently sees them as sex objects, good for one thing and that’s just it. While he may be concerned about the environment, he never seems concerned about his girlfriends as actual people who long to be in a lifelong relationship.

If that source is true, he does have a habit of dumping women who long to be in a lifelong relationship with him given he has all the resources needed to make it work. He could’ve had a child and sent them to a good school, while supporting his would-be wife. But since he doesn’t want a family and marriage, so he shot himself in the foot when he has a habit of dumping women whenever they got older.

Compare this to his contemporary, Christian Bale. He isn’t any better in some regards but the fact that he settled down and got a family whilst not dumping his wife for another woman repeatedly says a lot about the way he views women. Considering that DiCaprio was something of a heartthrob in the 1990s, while Bale wasn’t well to the same extent it makes me think this got into the former’s head where he still wants to portray himself as sexually available even though he let himself go.

It’s not that there aren’t any women who date men younger than they are, but I’m afraid that there are many other men who’re socialised to think that younger women are more desirable than older women. Leonardo DiCaprio may’ve been influenced by this, internalised it and carries it out more frequently than any of his contemporaries as far as I know about this. As I said before, Bale’s probably no saint but he doesn’t have a habit of dumping women after they reach a certain age the way DiCaprio does.

One could be single without objectifying people that much, but that involves a greater deal of self-control than one’s used to if they were to become celibate. But it gets complicated by other factors like misogyny, which I suspect DiCaprio’s prone to. As in he thinks women are only good for a few things, once they hit a certain age they become undesirable (there are MGTOWs who think the same way too). Bale, to my knowledge, never seemed to be like this.

Leonardo DiCaprio’s one of those men who see women as disposable sex objects, goes after women with certain traits and never wants to remain committed to one for long. Christian Bale’s not one of those men, which gets interesting that DiCaprio was considered to play the killer Patrick Bateman on American Psycho. Gloria Steinem didn’t want him to play the part, considering she was concerned for his fanbase at the time so Bale got the part. Ironically Bale’s less misogynistic and ageist than DiCaprio is.

Especially given DiCaprio’s habit of dumping women when they get older, so it seems from a teenaged fangirl point of view DiCaprio has feet of clay. Still, there are probably other men who have a habit of dumping women after women be it Pablo Picasso or probably Al Pacino himself. DiCaprio’s not alone in this regard, but this has to stop.

Attraction

When it comes to whoever becomes a sex symbol, especially among geeky cishet women, there are the more obvious choices then comes the more unexpected ones. There are some women who’re (sexually) attracted to the actor Christian Bale, but it’s Adam Driver who’s become an unexpected geek sex symbol mostly because he’s so unlike most actors we’ve come and known. I could say many of the same things about Benedict Cumberbatch and Tom Hiddleston, two men whose roles have made them into Tumblr sex symbols.

When it comes to fictional characters, there are also unexpected cases where in the case with the video game Undertale while many of the characters also got sexualised by fans it’s Sans who’s become a major male fandom sex symbol in a way that Mettaton hasn’t. When it comes to what some women are into, they’re not always beholden to what’s expected of them to be into. Some women aren’t into muscular or fat men, some women aren’t into tall men either.

Then there are men het women aren’t supposed to be attracted to in any way, which probably accounts for why Tumblr sexymen become the way they do. Some of these characters aren’t buff, some of them tend to be thirsted after whenever they tend to be skinny and appear in a suit. Dick Grayson is sexy, but he’s not a sexyman the same way Riddler and Venom have become. That doesn’t stop Grayson and his ilk from being the subject of many slash fanfics, but when it comes to sexymen they’re a class of their own.

They’re pretty much major geek sex symbols in a way the more conventionally attractive men aren’t, not that they aren’t unattractive but they don’t garner a big, defensive fanbase the way these characters do.